Many people who haven't had sex wonder if using a menstrual cup will be painful or uncomfortable, especially if they've heard myths about cups “popping the cherry” or causing damage to the hymen. The truth is, virgins can absolutely use menstrual cups without any harm or discomfort.
In fact, cups can be an excellent alternative to pads and tampons for first-time users, as they offer leak-free protection with longer wear times (and eco-friendly reusability). The key is choosing a cup that fits your anatomy and inserting it correctly with a little practice and patience.
In this guide, we'll dive into the facts about virginity and menstrual cups, and provide tips for how to use menstrual cups comfortably no matter your sexual experience. Whether you're a teen getting your first period or simply curious about making the switch to cups, rest assured that being a virgin doesn't mean missing out on their magic…
Virginity, hymens, and menstrual cups
First, let's debunk a common myth: virginity is a social construct, not a medical condition.
There's no physical marker that distinguishes virgins from non-virgins, and you don't "lose" anything when you have penetrative sex for the first time. The concept of virginity has no bearing on your anatomy or menstrual cup usage.
The hymen, a thin, elastic tissue that surrounds the vaginal opening, also has nothing to do with virginity. Hymens naturally come in many shapes and sizes, with some people born without a visible hymen at all. Even if your hymen is intact, it can stretch or tear from activities like sports, using tampons, or masturbation. Contrary to popular belief, an intact hymen is not an indicator of virginity!
Inserting a menstrual cup may stretch the hymen if it is still present, but it will not affect virginity. In fact, many people find that using a menstrual cup is more comfortable and convenient than pads or tampons, especially for active lifestyles. Cups create a leak-free seal and can be worn for up to 12 hours, making them a great choice for anyone who wants to try a sustainable, long-lasting period product.
Choosing a beginner-friendly menstrual cup
If you're a virgin looking to try a menstrual cup for the first time, choosing the right size and style is key for comfort and ease of use. Opt for a smaller size designed for teens, petite users, or those with a low cervix. These cups are usually shorter and narrower than larger sizes, making them easier to insert and remove without discomfort.
DAME's reusable menstrual cup comes in two sizes to accommodate different bodies and needs. The smallest size may be the best choice for virgins or first-time cup users, as it is designed for a snug, comfortable fit. The rounded base and textured removal ring also make it easy to grip and break the suction seal for mess-free removal.
When shopping for a beginner-friendly cup, look for one made of soft, medical-grade silicone that is flexible enough to fold tightly for insertion. A smooth, rounded rim can also help the cup glide in easily without irritating the vaginal walls or hymen.
Proper insertion technique is also crucial for comfort, especially if you're new to menstrual cups. Most cups can be folded in various ways, such as the C-fold or punch-down fold, to create a small, tapered shape that slides in easily. This helpful video tutorial demonstrates how to insert a menstrual cup step-by-step, with tips for finding the right angle and position.
Tips for painless menstrual cup use
Using a menstrual cup shouldn't hurt, even for virgins. To insert it without pain, follow these easy steps:
- Wash your hands and get into a comfortable position, like squatting or propping one leg up.
- If it’s your first time, you may want to apply a water-based lubricant to the rim of the cup to help it glide in smoothly.
- Fold the cup tightly, like a C-fold or punch-down fold, and angle it towards your tailbone.
- Relax your pelvic floor muscles and breathe deeply as you gently insert the cup.
- Once inside, allow the cup to pop open and create a suction seal. Rotate it 360° to ensure proper placement.
If you feel any pain, pinching or leaking, the cup likely isn't placed correctly. Remove it by breaking the seal, then try reinserting it. With practice, you'll get the hang of it!
The bottom line
Ultimately, being a virgin doesn't mean you can't use a menstrual cup comfortably. Cups are suitable for people of all ages and life stages, and they don't impact virginity.
By choosing a petite size like DAME's smallest menstrual cup and following gentle insertion techniques, virgins can absolutely use menstrual cups without pain.
Don't let outdated taboos stop you from experiencing the magic of mess-free, eco-friendly period protection!
